Why self care in the midst of such suffering?

I find myself thinking about why self care in the midst of global suffering.  It's not to be lost on most of us that this is a challenging time in the history of our planet, of humanity, of animal and plant life.  I don't know what it is to come.  What I do know, however, is that it's my job to run my leg of the race, to do what is in my power to do.  

In my power, is to remind myself and remind you, that you matter.  Your life has meaning.  You feeling connected to your feelings, needs, and life vision matters.  You feeling nourished and supported matters.  This is not to say that other peoples' needs, feelings, visions do not matter.  On the contrary, I believe that our self care is connected to our community care, and our community care is connected to our self care.  We cannot have one without the other.

For today, may you connect to a vision of wholeness, peace and shared humanity.  May you remember grace and love, may you spread love and receive love.

I see you.  I know this is not easy.  Keep trusting.

With love,


On prioritizing: what self care looks like for me this week (early summer)

As I work with incoming freshmen on their priorities and time management,  I'm reminded once again of the importance of scheduling time to do the things that fill my tank.  It can never hurt to be reminded about this and have the value of planning the self-care stuff.  This week, self-care looks like ...

  • 10 minute runs around our block
  • morning pages at the end of the work day followed by mountain meditation on insight timer 
  • crafting with jenafer joy of cosmic cowgirls on "rebel rules" 
  • tracking my feel good moments in my monthly passion planner 

What self care looks like for me this week ...

  • Appreciating family trips to new locales, this past week ... Letchworth State Park
  • Massage and journaling time at my favorite, Rasa Spa
  • Listening to courses on functional design through Creative Live
  • Moving through project lists and organizing next actions through GTD methodology
  • Completing May Sarton's "Recovering" on my kindle
  • Listening to Side Hustle podcast for ideas and inspiration
  • Thursday evening yoga at my favorite, Yoga Farm


What self care looks like for me this week ...

  • 20 minutes walks through Cornell's botanical gardens during my lunch break
  • Talks with old friends <3
  • Listening to my Nina Simone Pandora playlist 
  • Listening to Michael Bernard Beckwith & Oprah on Super Soul Conversations Podcast
  • Celebrating the completion of a half day self-care retreat and 5 month self care group for advisors at Cornell
  • Reading the "Daily Om" by Madisyn Taylor as a daily oracle and blindly choosing a message of the day

Early Spring: what self care looks like this week ...

Meditating along with short Yoga Nidra practices through my Insight Timer app

Short restorative and yin classes on YogaGlo

Connecting back with daily sun salutations (I did (almost) 10 daily throughout 2014)

Planning dates with my husband and utilizing the great care providers we love to watch our son

Responding to writing prompts in my journal shared from Cosmic Cowgirls' Mary Macdonald:

  1. This is an exercise that the writer Abigail Thomas gives her students that I LOVE. Take any ten year period in your life and write two pages about it using only 3 word sentences. Then choose a sentence that hums for you and write two pages around that sentence.
  2. I know I should regret it but I don’t.
  3. It makes me so angry when….
  4. It’s hard for me to say what I want because….
  5. People expect me to….
  6. I feel most in tune with life and myself when….
  7. I’m so sorry I….
  8. Tough times have taught me….
  9. There are limits and mine….
  10. This taste reminds me of…


Remembering this too shall pass


In a 5 minute future self meditation today, I connected with my 45 year old self 10 years from now.  Gratefully, I felt reminded that the struggles and concerns of my today will pass.  I felt comforted remembering that the issues that I and that my family are dealing with at this present moment will transform, will be ground up, will be composted and will become something brand new and different.  I felt peace in remembering that the issues of my 25 year old self (10 years ago) have been broken down and integrated into my 35 year old self of today.  Thank goodness!

This too shall pass, and I will become what I'm meant to become.  I need, simply, to remember my vision and step into that vision, day by day, step by step.  Instead of comparing, regretting or mulling, I felt grateful to be reminded that there is so much more to me.  I will become the person that I imagine myself to be.  I will transcend my challenges of today.  I will become more of what I'm meant to become.


On saying Yes to desire


I said Yes to something.  Something that I assumed other folks in my life wouldn't understand.  Something that I felt embarrassed and shy to say that I wanted.  It's Vivienne McMaster's "Be Your Own Beloved" Course.  I have been intrigued and moved by her photos and commentary over the years.  In the act of asking myself, what do we actually want?  I heard this class.  I felt the wave of happiness that comes unexpectedly when I say yes to an opportunity that I truly want.  In signing up for something that I have wanted to do for years, I have affirmed myself. And, I choose to believe that this choice tells my Muse, my soul and my artist that I'm listening, that I haven't given up on living a life that feels true to me in all ways.  So I'm becoming my own beloved, and allowing myself to feel the joy of seeing my self through a compassionate lens.  So grateful to Vivienne and the #beyourownbeloved community.  

Be Your Own Beloved